12 Simple-Super Strong Steps to build Self Confidence
Most people are not born with this quality of character. However, you can build it up.
You can build self-confidence by changing your mindset and your attitude toward life, even if various personal experiences in the past caused you to lose it.
Self confidence is often affected by how you believe people see you.
If you have low self-esteem, you would probably believe and feel that people don’t have a high opinion of you, which will of course, undermine your self confidence.
If you see yourself in your mind’s eye as lacking self confidence, you will behave accordingly, and people would treat you accordingly.
If you see yourself in your mind’s eye as strong and assertive, you would broadcast this attitude to the people you meet, who would sense your inner strength and treat you accordingly.
Here are the Self confidence tips to help you build your confidence and feeling of self-worth.
1. Think about what you have already done in your life
Even if you experienced failure and unhappiness in your life, there certainly are a few achievements.These need not be great achievements, but quite simple ones, such as getting good grades at school or college, promotion at work, getting along well with your neighbors, getting your driving license, or learning to swim.
Thinking about those achievements makes you realize that you have experienced success in your life, and not all is failure.This would make you feel better about yourself and about your life, and improve your self-esteem.
2. Focus on what you did and achieved, not on what you did not do and did not achieve
Why fill your mind with scenarios of failure?
If you keep thinking about failure, you unconsciously expect and anticipate it, and might eventually attract it to you. This would further spoil your sense of self-confidence. You should replace this negative movie in your mind with a movie about success. See yourself in your mind, where you really want to be, living the life you really want.
If you keep watching a movie of success in your mind, you will eventually attract success. This process would build up your self-confidence.
3. Write down a list of your achievements and success
Take another step toward building your self-confidence and write down a list of your achievements and success, and at look at this list often.
You might say that you have never experienced success. You are wrong about that.
You surely had, even if only occasionally, experienced some kind of success. Even baking a good cake, being in good relations with your spouse or children, or going for a walk almost every day is a form of success.
4. Think about your talents and abilities
Set a time each day to think about your talents and abilities, and find ways to develop and use them. Do not say that you have no talents and skills. Everyone has some. You just need to find them.
5. Strengthen your willpower and self-discipline
Lack of self-confidence goes hand in hand with lack of willpower and self-discipline.
When you strengthen your willpower and self-discipline, your self-confidence would grow strong too. Stronger willpower and self-discipline means more assertiveness, more self-esteem and more confidence.
6. Set small, simple goals
Set small, simple goals that are within your reach, and go achieve them. This will greatly boost your confidence.
I am talking about really small goals, such as cleaning and arranging your wardrobe or drawers, inviting friends to your house, starting to learn swimming, taking a short walk, or talking with someone whom you don’t like.These small acts will make you feel better about yourself and increase your self-confidence.
7. Develop a positive attitude
Instead of focusing on negative events and expecting the worse, make the effort to focus on the positive and expect positive results.
This might not be easy if your mindset has always been negative. However, with persistence, you can change your mental habits and build a positive attitude.It would help, if you strive to remove from your mind and from your vocabulary all negative thoughts and words, and refrain from using them in your conversation.
8. Give yourself motivational talks
Remove any negative commentary running in your mind. Be firm, and do not allow negative comments about you and about your life to run in your mind. You need to be more aware of what is going on in your mind and not allow negative self-talk to go on in your mind.
9. What we wear, often, affects how we feel
What kind of clothes makes you feel better? What colors make you feel more confident?
Choose the clothes and colors you like, and the ones that make you feel more confident.
10. Your body posture is important
Keep your back straight while walking and while sitting.
11. Act confidently
Act confidently, even if you are faking it . In time, acting confidently will become a habit.
12. Let your voice be heard
When talking, speak up and clearly and don’t be afraid to express your opinions.
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